Comments on: I'll be in Mexico http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/ Keep track of the new kid Mon, 31 Oct 2011 02:57:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: benmac http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1077 benmac Wed, 14 Jul 2004 04:55:11 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1077 In the long run, yes, the good outweighs the bad. I think this has a lot to do with the way your mind tries to suppress negative experiences and reinforce the positive ones. I don't really remember all the sleep deprivation. I can look at the records, but they are more of a curiosity than a visceral memory. In that sense, love wins. Trixie reinforces it on a daily basis as she grows and does new stuff, and I gradually forget about all the times she throw up on the bed. In the long run, yes, the good outweighs the bad. I think this has a lot to do with the way your mind tries to suppress negative experiences and reinforce the positive ones. I don’t really remember all the sleep deprivation. I can look at the records, but they are more of a curiosity than a visceral memory. In that sense, love wins. Trixie reinforces it on a daily basis as she grows and does new stuff, and I gradually forget about all the times she throw up on the bed.

]]> By: Zenzile http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1076 Zenzile Tue, 13 Jul 2004 20:46:41 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1076 In reference to your entry, communicative, and understanding relationship taken into account, I wonder; do you think, in your experience, that the stress of having Trixie outweighs the loving feeling? I mean, you know how they always say that you discover an abundance of love you never knew you had when you have a child (I don't have one so I'm totally clueless as to he truth except from what I hear from experiences like yours) Have you experienced this? I mean it's pretty clear what you've experienced in terms of stress, sleep, deprivation, and various forms of torturous adjustment since Trixie arrived but have there been any unsual findings in levels of affection and personal fullfillment also? In reference to your entry, communicative, and understanding relationship taken into account, I wonder; do you think, in your experience, that the stress of having Trixie outweighs the loving feeling? I mean, you know how they always say that you discover an abundance of love you never knew you had when you have a child (I don’t have one so I’m totally clueless as to he truth except from what I hear from experiences like yours) Have you experienced this? I mean it’s pretty clear what you’ve experienced in terms of stress, sleep, deprivation, and various forms of torturous adjustment since Trixie arrived but have there been any unsual findings in levels of affection and personal fullfillment also?

]]> By: Michelle http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1075 Michelle Tue, 13 Jul 2004 00:51:02 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1075 Probably also important to point out that I doubt Jenn would consider a run to South of the Border a credible threat :) Probably also important to point out that I doubt Jenn would consider a run to South of the Border a credible threat :)

]]> By: Tina http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1074 Tina Tue, 13 Jul 2004 00:19:48 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1074 True enough. I live in Raleigh (a transplant from Charlotte) and I have to say I have been lost and scared in both states. Deliverance anyone? ;-) True enough. I live in Raleigh (a transplant from Charlotte) and I have to say I have been lost and scared in both states. Deliverance anyone? ;-)

]]> By: Michelle http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1073 Michelle Tue, 13 Jul 2004 00:03:45 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1073 Okay, as a SC native and current resident, I have to object. I hate that the insanity that is "South of the Border" is so well known! While attending a conference in CA, I even met a research group from the Netherlands had fallen victim to the advertising and stopped there! I shudder to think that South of the Border is the only memory these people had of the whole state of SC! Please NEVER go to South of the Border! Stay on I-95 and enjoy the tremendous amount of stupid advertising they do, but never stop. Michelle p.s. I lived in the Raleigh area and attended graduate school at UNC-CH for a year -- NC isn't that much different than SC! :) Okay, as a SC native and current resident, I have to object. I hate that the insanity that is “South of the Border” is so well known! While attending a conference in CA, I even met a research group from the Netherlands had fallen victim to the advertising and stopped there! I shudder to think that South of the Border is the only memory these people had of the whole state of SC!

Please NEVER go to South of the Border! Stay on I-95 and enjoy the tremendous amount of stupid advertising they do, but never stop.

Michelle

p.s. I lived in the Raleigh area and attended graduate school at UNC-CH for a year — NC isn’t that much different than SC! :)

]]> By: Tina http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1072 Tina Sun, 11 Jul 2004 03:33:47 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1072 Hehehe... if you go far enough into SC, you will feel like you are in another country. Hehehe… if you go far enough into SC, you will feel like you are in another country.

]]> By: benmac http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1071 benmac Sun, 11 Jul 2004 02:53:18 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1071 All these comments really got me thinking: Mexico isn't a credible threat. It's too far away. I'm better off threatening to just drive to South of the Border. All these comments really got me thinking: Mexico isn’t a credible threat. It’s too far away. I’m better off threatening to just drive to South of the Border.

]]> By: Francesca http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1070 Francesca Sat, 10 Jul 2004 22:38:13 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1070 This is for Elizabeth, I to had to go medical to get pregnant. IVF with ISCI to be exact. The mood swings and rages were a perfect warm-up for the absolute insanity of having twins at 40. I love them dearly, they are now 3. They make me laugh every day. If you want to chat about the fun of medical offline, you can email me. But it was a hormone preview of mommy coping/not-coping with infancy :) This is for Elizabeth,

I to had to go medical to get pregnant. IVF with ISCI to be exact. The mood swings and rages were a perfect warm-up for the absolute insanity of having twins at 40. I love them dearly, they are now 3. They make me laugh every day. If you want to chat about the fun of medical offline, you can email me. But it was a hormone preview of mommy coping/not-coping with infancy :)

]]> By: Erica http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1069 Erica Sat, 10 Jul 2004 20:29:39 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1069 Love your blog! Although I would never recommend to someone to purposely have a baby to try to make a relationship work, my husband and I actually had this work for us. We had ups and downs after the birth of our first (mostly downs--for years) but things were seeming better. We got onto the project of baby #2 and things were seriously difficult. I wasn't sure how we were going to make it. The pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum were mainly void of happiness and love feelings. However, our love for our two children and the deepened sense of responsibility to keep our family together and make things work did indeed help us to grow up and improve things. It was the reality check and kick in the pants that we needed. It has been over 8 years since baby #2. We now have 6 kids, have been married for 13 years, and we are very happy. I am sure we are going to be together for the long haul. Frankly, if we hadn't had the second child, I think it would have been much easier for us to split, and even easier without a child at all. So, again, don't you people with troubles marriages go having babies in an ill attempt to fix things, but our children can and do motivate us to reach higher and deeper than we normally would. :) Love your blog!

Although I would never recommend to someone to purposely have a baby to try to make a relationship work, my husband and I actually had this work for us. We had ups and downs after the birth of our first (mostly downs–for years) but things were seeming better. We got onto the project of baby #2 and things were seriously difficult. I wasn’t sure how we were going to make it. The pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum were mainly void of happiness and love feelings. However, our love for our two children and the deepened sense of responsibility to keep our family together and make things work did indeed help us to grow up and improve things. It was the reality check and kick in the pants that we needed.

It has been over 8 years since baby #2. We now have 6 kids, have been married for 13 years, and we are very happy. I am sure we are going to be together for the long haul. Frankly, if we hadn’t had the second child, I think it would have been much easier for us to split, and even easier without a child at all.

So, again, don’t you people with troubles marriages go having babies in an ill attempt to fix things, but our children can and do motivate us to reach higher and deeper than we normally would. :)

]]> By: fred http://trixieupdate.com/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1068 fred Sat, 10 Jul 2004 16:37:34 +0000 http://www.trixieupdate.com/wp/2004/07/08/ill-be-in-mexico/#comment-1068 Have you considered whether or not Trixie decided to have parents in order to "seal" her relationship with her Significant Stuffed Animal Others? Have you considered whether or not Trixie decided to have parents in order to “seal” her relationship with her Significant Stuffed Animal Others?

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