We're doing fine

Trixie is going apeshit bonkers. She and I have been on our own for the last 36 hours because Jenn is at a 2-day conference. It’s terrible. Six o’clock rolls around and there’s no hand-off. I don’t know who’s been crying and screaming more, Trixie or me.

Jenn is coming home tomorrow, but not until late, so there’s one more full day to go. In the meantime, Trixie has been tramping around the apartment in a weepy mess, there are Cheerios everywhere and I’m still discovering the sticky range of this afternoon’s applesauce bomb.

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17 Responses to We're doing fine

  1. tb says:

    If she is teething and slobbering like Hooch you can alternate Children’s Tylenol and Children’s Motrin every 3 hours. But some things only Mom can fix. Don’t lay in the road, don’t lay in the road…must repeat to yourself….

  2. fred says:

    It’s not about who cries and screams more, it’s about who cries and screams louder. I think you’ve got the pipes on Trixie.

  3. hannah says:

    Just think of it as a personal accompishment – like staying in the lotus position for 48 hours, or climbing Mt. Everest, triathalon, etc. Except those are easier. YOu should build a trophy for yourself to document your endeavor. Hang in there.

  4. Nicholas says:

    For teething we use Hyland Teething Tablets from Wellspring (Whole Foods). They are homeopathic and work great.

  5. Tara says:

    keep your chin up! it’s harder to have your eyes poked out that way.

  6. …and jenn? weepy mess, or secretly enjoying a few nights’ sleep?

  7. Kristen says:

    Hi Ben
    It is Kristen (Hart) Hess.
    Congrats on Trixie…sounds like you two are doing well (though not as well today!)

    This is my first visit to your website. I just read the N&O article today….very nice.

    Steve and I have a 5 week old boy, Ethan Cole Hess. We are doing well, but still adjusting.

    Take care and congrats again.

  8. benmac says:

    teething questions: We use all of the suggested above. But ice cube in a washcloth beats all for quick relief.

    kristen: thanks for writing. It’s good to hear from you. I sent an email your way.

  9. Doug says:

    I feel your pain. My wife is headed off tomorrow morning for a jury duty assignment that she’s already blown off twice, so it’ll be nonstop toddlerdom for the next three days or so.

    Teething: My estimable, progressive pediatrician recommended “Grandma’s remedy”–dipping my finger in scotch and rubbing the boy’s gums. Worked like a charm, though it may have set the stage for some alarming habits down the road.

  10. nanka says:

    This site is pretty disturbing. Please, for the sake of your child, stop the obsessive recording before your kid is old enough to remember. I’d lose my mind if I found out that my parents kept an extensive record of everytime I pissed or pooped or breastfed of all of the humiliating things I did as a baby. Infancy is something we all want to keep behind us. We all know we used to crap our pants, but we don’t want to remember that. It isn’t a very flattering time of life.

  11. Sheila says:

    Your site was posted on a childfree board here: http://www.fred.net/turtle/kids/kidrants.shtml.

    While I expected to find someone excessively enamored by their child’s poo, I instead found a well-written journal.

    Your daughter is adorable and your writing about your normal days as a stay-at-home father is very humorous.

    I narrowly avoided spitting out my drink when I read Trixie would reach the 800 lb. mark by her first birthday.

  12. hannah says:

    Just a note to Nanka – it is a shame that Trixie’s bubble will be burst now – she will no longer be able to think she was Trixie the shit-less wonder! And she’ll also found out that she – gasp – breastfed. Not to mention peed. Oh my god, she’ll find out she’s just like the rest of us with all of our humiliating intake and output needs.

  13. Charlie says:

    Nanka, your statement that “Infancy is something we all want to keep behind us” is pretty disturbing in and of itself. I suggest you discuss this with your therapist, or at least your parents if possible.

  14. Dave says:

    Ben, I’m impressed. A little nonplussed, but… Anyhow, I’ve just spent about 3 hours totally fascinated by your data collection efforts as I try to figure out how I am to survive impending fatherhood. You’ve certainly given me the information I crave without actually allaying my fears.

  15. benmac says:

    Thank you for the head’s up and your comments. I always try to keep a sense of humor about the site.

    Your reputation as the toughest, quickest to the draw, when it comes to putting out the flames is reaching epic proportions.

    Makes sense to me.

    Don’t worry. The fear gives way to confusion once the sleep deprivation kicks in. Also, congratulations! (And I’m glad the site was helpful to you.)

  16. Scott says:


    Allow me to gush.

    1. Trixie is adorable.

    2. Your site is beautifully designed.

    3. The stats are just mind-boggingly cool.

    Which reminds me: during my first few weeks of fatherhood, when my wife and I had to keep track of diapers, feedings, sleeping, etc., I had wished I had some software do keep the paperwork (perhaps something I could run on my Palm Pilot). Never did I imagine something like what you’ve put together for this site.

    Kudos, congratulations … huzzah!

  17. badgerbag says:

    I’m so hoping you have backup by now – friends or paid babysitters who can come give you a break for a couple of hours! So crucial! I know it’s months later! Stick out those tentacles, meet some people at the playground, etc. if you can. This is why you do “playgroups” when your baby is way too young to play… right?

    p.s. I love your site and recommend it to people all the time. Everything I wanted to know about being a parent but is this information anywhere in parenting books? Nooooo. Anyway, thanks.

    — Liz